First Date Fiasco

Chances are you have probably been doing the dinner and a movie date for a while.

Or the dinner date.

Or the movie date.

These places are terrible for building attraction, they don’t highlight your personality, and they don’t foster affection. All key for securing a second date.

Here’s why they don’t work to your advantage.

If you are on a three-hour date, and the movie is 2 and a half-hours long, that is not a good way to get to know each other.

I understand the appeal of the movie- it eliminates awkward pauses in conversations.

I hate to break it to you, but if you’re on a first date, and you’re already having awkward pauses, chances are it wasn’t meant for the two of you to be together.

If you’re that worried about holding a conversation, at least take her to a comedy club so you’re not responsible for making her laugh (which you should anyway-constantly), and it gives you something to talk about after.

So do a little research, investigate some cafe’s in your area. Go to some dive bars. Ideally ones with bench seating so you can sit next to each other. Find a cool spot that you can take her to grab a drink, maybe some dessert and just talk and flirt.

You’ll end up spending less money if you don’t share chemistry, and you have more oppurtunities to play footsies if everything works out.

Regardless of the location, the goal of the date should be to get the kiss. And you can’t kiss without touching, and its very difficult to touch when you’re sitting across from her on a table eating who knows what.

You’ll probably be able to have more first dates now with less time, effort, and money, and eliminate a month of dating and hundreds of dollars only to realize it wasn’t meant to be.

Your wallet and your ego will thank you for it.

Good Luck and Happy Hunting.

-The Haute Spot

It is ALWAYS ok to approach women.

You will date 0% of the women you never approach.

Here’s how you do it without looking like a douche:

1.)Change your attitude
First you need to get rid of that strong, silent attitude most guys in the gym have. It seems like every guy in the gym has a look on his face that screams

“I wish I was taller.”

Don’t be that guy.

Instead get to know everyone. Guys and girls. Know them by name. Get your workout in, but don’t neglect being social. That way you get noticed as a naturally social butterfly and it won’t seem creepy when you approach strangers.

2.) Approach her

If she’s wearing headphones and in the zone- leave her be.

If not, or better yet if she makes eye contact with you, you have a green light.

-Ask her if you can work in on her machine
Very simple and innocent. Ask her how many sets she has left and if you can work in with her. Be sure to towel off between sets so she doesn’t get grossed out.

-Ask her for a spot
A little more bold, and a little too obvious. Why would you ask her for a spot when there are tons of capable guys around.

But it can be done. I would put on an embarrassingly low amount of weight and pretend to struggle-who knows, you may get a laugh, and it won’t look like you’re trying to impress her.

-Ask her about a particular machine
Woman love using machines that guys would never touch. The leg abductor, the tricep kickback machine, the laying leg curl, you get the picture. Machines you know men shouldn’t be using.
It’s still a great opportunity to strike up a conversation. Ask her if it works, how to do it, does she get sore, etc.

3.) Ask for her name
This is very important because unless you look like Brad Pitt, you probably won’t be taking her home the same day.

And here is where the magic happens…

You leave.

That’s right! You excuse yourself. Thank her for the spot/laugh/tip and you don’t talk to her again.

You see, most girls that you meet at the gym are members. This means they will probably be back, and usually at the same times.

Therefore, you WILL probably see her again.

And when you do, you will say hello to her.

By name.

Do you see what happened? You went from the guy hitting on her at the gym, to the cool, funny, nice guy at the gym.

Completely innocent- and totally in.

4.)Small talk and getting her to laugh

Make sure to smile.

Say hi every time you see her in the gym. Tell her that calf exercise she told you about made you really sore :p (yeah, right).

Tease her for not seeing her enough, tell her she’s been slacking on her workout. That she’s been staying home and reading too many Twilight books and not taking her workout seriously. Anything to make her laugh.

If she defends her workout: Ask her to flex her bicep for you. When she flexes it hard, give it a gentle squeeze- then tell her

“Ok, now flex.” with your coy cocky smile.

She’ll instantly laugh and say “I AM flexing”

Tell her that you stopped working out so much because you started getting too big and were scaring little children.

Anything to make her laugh.

5.) Ask her out

You’re in. It’s time to go in for the kill.

Congratulations, you are no longer the douche that approached her at the gym.

You’re the awesome guy taking her out for her drinks this weekend.

-Good Luck and Happy Hunting

Bravado Living

Now here’s a story that makes you feel good about the future of humanity, at least if you’re a guy. Scientists have found that evolution is leading women – but not men – to become ever more beautiful over time.

Researchers at the University of Helsinki have discovered that good-looking women have more 
children than less attractive women and that more of those children are girls. When those daughters grow up, they are more likely to be hotties and the pattern is continued. Generation after generation of already hot women are only getting hotter. Wow.

In contrast, men are not getting better looking because attractive couples are less likely to have a boy than a girl. Scientists claim that men are as aesthetically unappealing as their caveman brethren. Sorry ladies.

Markus Jokela, a researcher at the University of Helsinki studied more than 2,000 Americans over 40 years. The attractiveness of each couple was measured from photos taken during the study. Jokela found that beautiful women had 16 percent more children then less attractive women.

A separate study in 2006 conducted at the London School of Economics found that attractive parents are much more likely to produce daughters.

Scientists say that physical attractiveness increases the reproductive success of women more than men. Since attractive parents have more daughters and attractiveness is inherited, it follows that women over generation gradually become better looking. -Via

There’s nothing more embarrassing then showing up to a club and getting rejected at the door. Or so we hear, it’s never actually happened to us at THS.

You can’t dress up like a DJ every night, or can you? Well now you can learn from the pros on how to get into any nightclub.

Bring girls

No bouncer wants to let in 5 guys out for a night of dancing. It ruins the ratio inside the club, makes him look like a chump, and there are way more beautiful women outside that he will surely pick over you. So do yourself a favor and bring girls with you, even if they’re just friends. Keep the ratio at least 1:1 and push to the front of the crowd. No bouncer is going to pick you to get in, if you’re all the way in the back.

Hail Mary: So you’re in the parking lot and it resembles your 4 on 4 flag football game with blazers- chat up the group of girls in the parking lot and ask them which club they’re going to. Maybe you’ll get lucky and they’ll let you tag along all the way inside of the club. Leave them alone once you get in though- groups of girls in clubs are just looking to dance- none of them are going to get with you. That won’t stop the millions of other guys in the club from trying though.

Get on the list

Learn who the head promoter is. Every club now has a million flyer boys who have no pull, and couldn’t get Michael Jackson into the club if they dragged him in (too soon?). So go up the chain of command, and find out who runs the promotion for the night- he’s usually the guy with 4000 friends on his facebook and no real friends in real life. At the very least find out who’s running the door, what he looks like, and call on him by name. Point to the girls you’re with and escort everyone in your group into the club.

Dress Appropriately

Read our other articles

Divide and Conquer

Sometimes, you have to just split up. It’s a lot easier letting in 2 guys, than it is 5.

Arrive Early

It’s a lot better to be waiting inside of a club for 45 minutes, than it is to be waiting outside for 15. No-one cares that you show up fashionably late. Also, there’s probably open bar- take advantage.

If all else fails- buy a bottle

Buying a bottle is probably one of the biggest wastes of money known to man. If you know a promoter well enough, he’ll probably give you one for free. Or if you’re crafty enough, you can sneak one in your back pocket and sip from it in the bathroom.

But it will do one thing– get you, and all your boys inside. Split the cost so you regret it less at the end of the night when you realize clubs aren’t that cool anyway.

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